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Friday, 22 January 2010

You should only have eyes for me. Is that too much to ask for?

I'm dating my best friend of three years. We've been dating for almost four months now. When we were friends, we were very open with eachother, about everything. He talked to me about his past relationships, I did the same, we talked about potential prom dates when we were seniors and juniors in high school, pretty girls, cute guys, etc... As time went by, we began developing feelings for eachother, but I did my best to hide this, as I didn't want it to ruin our friendship. After high school, I began going to college and he took off to marine bootcamp and was gone for three months, during which time I realized how much I actually missed spending time with him and how much I cared for him. He came home in october, for two weeks. Showed up at my door with a bouquet of red roses and asked me to be his girlfriend. I was a bit worried about the fact that he'd be leaving for more training again in just a few weeks, but said yes nevertheless.
As we grew closer, I realized that little things began to bother me. I mean, we were both able to sit and watch tv together, and talk about how handsome tom welling is and how we would both "do him," if we were given the chance, the same with female celebrities (Jennifer Aniston). But it bothered me when he complimented someone in person, someone we actually knew, and called them "cute" or "pretty" or told them they looked nice, in front of me.
For example, I took him to a church event with me around christmas time, and when he was greeting my sister's friends, he apparently felt the need to compliment them. "Wow you look nice today abi" he would say.. or he'd turn to me and say "see, I told you candy was cute." In front of her so that she would hear him. And when we sat down at our table, I made a comment about it. "I guess we just checkout every girl in sight right?" I asked sarcastically. (I was annoyed!) And he said he just did it to "be polite.." but that didnt change the fact that it bothered me. "It's different when you say it to their face" I said. "That's more than just being polite, I'm going to go be polite to that guy over there and see how you like it." He laughed and said "ok so were allowed to say we'd do celebrities on tv but can't even call someone we know pretty? That makes alot of sense." Then, just as he said that, Candy came to sit at our table "what's up guys?" she asked. "She wants to get back at me for calling you pretty, is that really so wrong?" He said.
That didn't help his case at all.
He constantly does things like these, and sees nothing wrong with it. I guess you could say it makes me jealous... But why? It's not that I see any of these girls as a potential threat. It just bothers me.. I thought it was just common sense not to talk about other girls/guys when you're with your SO. I don't go around thinking or saying things like "well that guy over there is handsome. I should go compliment him" when I'm with him. The same way, I feel he should only have eyes for me, is this a girl thing? Or am I being ridiculous and irrational? Is it REALLY too much to ask for?
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